Whether you’ve been with your partner for a long time, or you’re feeling the effects of aging, illness or weight gain, it’s natural to go through stages where your sex drive drops. The good news is, there are plenty of ways you can improve your sex life, no matter what your age, so here are some suggestions to get you ready for an amazing Valentine’s Day in 2020.
Get fit
Chances are, you’ve already made a New Year’s resolution to get fit or simply move more, and the good news is that getting fit can boost your sex drive. Improving circulation can increase sensation in the genitals, a stronger core can lead to a stronger pelvic floor and being stronger and more flexible means you can be more adventurous with your positions in bed. So, all those New Year yoga classes might just pay off.
Get a checkup
It never hurts to get a checkup with your doctor, and if you are having problems in the bedroom, there could be an underlying health issue. Painful sex, sudden lack of sexual interest or erectile dysfunction are all things that your doctor should investigate. Don’t just assume because you’re getting older that nothing can be done. There are always new medical advances to try. For example, women who suffer vaginal dryness and reduced sensation may want to look into the O Shot, which is offered by Dr. David Ghozland. This non-surgical procedure can help women who have trouble achieving orgasm.
Have an honest talk with your partner
Some couples only talk about sex when they’re already in the act, which can make it difficult to discuss things like fantasies and what they enjoy. Have an honest talk with your partner about what you want to try and compare fantasies you have in common, as well as your limits, so next time you’re in bed, you are on the same page.
Try something new
Like fashion and food, each year sees certain sex trends, so you’ve always got something new to try. Some of the sex trends for 2020 include CBD lubes and ‘sexual wellness,’ i.e., using mindfulness techniques in the bedroom. It’s always worth trying something new, and if it doesn’t work out, then at least you can laugh it off.
Take some time away
The start of the new year is a popular time to book a vacation, so when you’re researching the annual family trip, think about booking a weekend away without the kids. Sometimes, simply taking a couple of days away on an adult-only break will help you re-establish your connection and get back to basics.
Relax
Like most things in life, if you relax and let things happen, then you’re more likely to be happy. There are all sorts of things that can derail your sex life, from a baby to a change of circumstances, so when these things happen, you may need to take a short break before you try to reconnect.
These are great tips. I think the last one is really important!